Being in a Long Distance Relationship

Being in a Long Distance Relationship

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I’ll willing admit that, absence does indeed make the heart grow fonder. I mean with 3869 miles between my partner and I, it would be a boldface lie to deny it.

I miss her . . . a lot. I know I don’t talk about my relationship often on my blog. There’s a part of me that’s very protective of it and holds it very close to my chest where it can’t be harmed (figuratively not literally). I’m releasing it a bit today and hopefully more in the future.

Being in a long distance relationship is different, the lack of physicality has made the emotional connection STRONG and impenetrable. I think that’s one of the biggest pros of long distance, you are able to develop the emotional and mental connection.

I wouldn’t trade the emotional connection but I still wish she was here because I do miss her very much. On the occasions where I’m my saddest or happiest I let the words slip out. This usually leads to long paragraphs, talking about our physical meet up date with hints of sadness that it’s not right now or tomorrow.

Thanks to technological advancement we can be in constant contact through Whatsapp, video calls, voice calls and all that good stuff. In the beginning, I was grateful for having those tools to help us stay connected and build the connection we have now. However, has days turned into weeks then months, the tools don’t feel enough.

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There are days like today when I wish she could come over my house so we can binge watch Sandman on Netflix or help me organize my room. She’s fully aware of my hoarding and it runs chills down her OCD spine.

There are days like today when I wish we could be in the same timezone so we could experience the day together. We’re both night owls and have this elaborate plan to stay up from sunrise to sunset one day.

We are meeting up pretty soon but knowing that doesn’t stop my heart from yearning. It’s just one of those feelings I have no control over. That’s one of the cons of LDR, no physical presence and the yearning for it.

Months of being in a long distance relationship has me applauding the ones who have been doing it before me. It’s definitely not easy. It’s worth it though if you’ve found someone who makes you happy.

Are you or have you ever been in a long distance relationship?

14 thoughts on “Being in a Long Distance Relationship

  1. I’m sorry you and your partner can’t be in the same place right now. I’ve been in a long distance relationship before and it really sucked not being able to experience things together and sometimes it was the small things that hurt the most.

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      1. Yeah missing out on the small things sucks. It’s just somehow less fun without them around.
        My relationship ended because we realised we wanted different things and would probably never be able to stay in the same place together. I just couldn’t take anymore of being apart. It was a tough decision to make.

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  2. i was in a long distance relationship w my boyfriend for a little over a year and that shit was hard. i had experienced a few losses and completely shut down and closed off myself to the world and theres a part of me that still holds it against him (that he wasnt here when i needed him the most). hes here now though and were still together so i think as long as theres an end date planned out itll be ok x sending goos vibes ♥️

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    1. I’m sorry to hear about your loss, I hope you’re in a better mental space now. Long distance can be even more difficult when you’re going through something and you really need your partner and they’re just not able to physically be there. I’m happy you and him were able to close the distance and things have worked out for the better. Thanks for that tip and for the good vibes, I really appreciate it 😊

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